Discover The
Easiest Way to Deal With Feelings Of Jealousy And Doubt And
Get Ready toEnjoy
a
Threesome This Weekend!
By Suzy Bauer
Author of Step by Step Threesome
Lets face it...
You’ve learned jealousy from all the people around you,
including your parents.
Most people have three core beliefs about relationships
that are guaranteed to create jealousy even in the most sexual
liberal thinking people.
The sad thing is that most of us have absorbed these beliefs
without even realizing it!
Identifying
and dismantling these beliefs in our mind and heart is the
single most effective way to short-circuit jealousy. The
reason why the idea of a threesome is unthinkable to many people
is because
they’ve been “programmed” this way.
If my partner really loved me, he/she wouldn’t have sexual
desires for anyone else but me.
This belief sees any interest your partner has in anyone else as
a direct reflection of how much he or she loves you. It’s a
quantitative view of love which equates the amount of love with
the ability to be interested in having another partner.
This is nuts isn’t it?
We are sexual beings and it is normal to fantasize about being
with other people. Denying these feelings goes against our
nature.
My partner can only be interested in some one else if I’m not a
good enough in bed.
This belief is even more sinister!
With the previous belief you could at least blame it on your
partner for not loving you enough.
This belief says that if your partner is interested in someone
else, it’s your fault for not being the perfect lover or spouse
therefore your relationship must be a failure.
If you truly believe that your lover could only be interested in
another partner because you’re inadequate, you can see how that
will generate jealousy big time!
It’s impossible to share love with more than one person at the
same time.
This belief is built on the "scarcity economy” of love; the
belief that love is a scarce resource, that only so much goes
around and that there’s never enough for all.
If my partner gives away love (time, love, affection, sex,
support) to anyone else, that means that there is less for me.
This belief creates fear and uncertainty. If this belief were
true, then a mother wouldn’t be able to her love her first child
as much after she gives birth to the second child because she
would have to divide her love between two.
In my eyes love is infinite, and the more you give the more you
will receive.
The beliefs mentioned below are connected to three primal fears
and you’ll need to work on eliminating these fears. It might
take a bit of time and effort to adjust and to create a new set
of beliefs.
Think for a moment how much influence these beliefs have had in
your life so far.
Have compassion for yourself as you work with these beliefs and
gradually replace them with beliefs that support your desire to
embrace an open relationship.
Beliefs can be empowering and disempowering.
You are who you are and you are where you are in
your life because of your beliefs.
If you want to start successfully exploring your sexuality it
might be a good idea to opt for a new set of beliefs!
Enlightened
Belief #1
My
partner loves me so much that he/she trusts our relationship to
expand and be enriched by experiencing even more love from
others.
Enlightened Belief #2
Our relationship is so solid and trusting that we can experience
with other people freely. My partner is so satisfied with me and
our relationship that having other partners will not threaten
the bond we enjoy.
Enlightened
Belief #3
There’s an abundance of love in the world and there is plenty
for everyone. Choosing to make love with more than one person is
a choice that can exponentially expand my potential for giving
and receiving love.
Imagine how different your life would be if you actually had
this set of beliefs instead of the previous ones.
A
person with this set of beliefs is not only ready to enjoy a
threesome, but also ready to take their relationship to new
levels of love and understanding.
Unlearning
Jealousy
If jealousy becomes an issue for you and your partner, you might
try working on some or all of these points:
Working on these points will eliminate jealousy a great
deal, however they won’t banish jealousy altogether!
Being jealous is simply the way you experience certain feelings.
Most people will say things like: “Oh, he makes me so jealous…”
The truth is that jealousy is an internal emotion. No person
or behavior can “make” you jealous.
Whether you like it or not, the only person who can really
banish jealousy is yourself.
So if you want to unlearn jealousy you need to stop
blaming and start acknowledging your feelings.
Next time you feel jealous, ask yourself; what does this
jealousy really mean?
Suddenly a new set of answers will come to you and you’ll be
able to deal with jealousy in a more intelligent way.
Remind yourself that you enjoy your lover's undivided attention
any night you wish.
However the night of your threesome is about sharing and
enjoying.
Any hint of perceived competition, or "I'm not getting my share"
or "you’re paying too much attention to him/her," and the
evening will be ruined faster than the speed of light.
This may lead to developing a sense of awkwardness afterwards
with the third person, and a possible quarrel with your partner.
If you make sure you and your partner are both emotionally ready
before you actually get involved in a threesome, I can assure
you success in taking the first step to fulfilling this
beautiful fantasy!
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