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How to Persuade Your Partner to Participate on
a Threesome!
By Suzy Bauer
Author of Step by Step Threesome
Let’s
face it, most threesome initiatives are started by males. There are
exceptions of course, however in the vast majority of cases it’s the
guys that come up with the idea...
If
the female is the one with the initiative or if both
of you are convinced about
pursuing the threesome fantasy, you’re one step ahead.
However
if you’d like to experience a threesome and you’ve never discussed
it with your partner, you might need some guidelines to help you
persuading her into participating in your fantasy.
The
first thing that you’ve got to take into consideration is that
women place high
values
on the pair-bond.
Women
are very apprehensive of anyone and anything threatening the health
and longevity of the relationship between her and her partner.
For
most women, a threesome carries risks she’s not eager to accept.
The
first giant obstacle you’ll face will be to overcome her insecurity.
Besides the
social conditioning she was raised with, there are some obstacles
that need to be cleared before she can be enthusiastic about
inviting someone else into an intimate session.
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Any woman who truly cares about you worries about the
relationship, with all the classic fears
and uncertainty about your love. You have to understand that she
often asks herself;
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“Does he love
me fully?”
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“Does he love only me?”
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“Does he really like me the way I am?”
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“Am I woman enough to keep him satisfied?”
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“Will he leave me for a younger/firmer/prettier woman?”
Filled
with uncertainty and jealously she will defend her turf against all
possible threats.
The only responsible person to ease
the above mentioned issues is the male in the relationship. Happy,
secure, confident women aren’t very jealous.
What Behavior Triggers
Her Insecurity?
If
your partner is jealous, the root might stem from your own behavior.
If you recognize yourself in some of this behavior,
your partner has
every right to feel insecure about your relationship:
You’ve frequently expressed yourdissatisfaction
about her
You constantly criticize her and
never
compliment her
You flirt with every cute woman
you see
You stay out all night from time
to time
You’ve habitually expressed your
discontent with your life and your
relationship
You only touch her while having
sex and you don’t
express your love often
You’ve threatened to leave her
Any of
these types of behavior will rapidly turn into insecurity,
resentment and a constant jealousy. The insecure woman's worst
nightmare is another female in her life and the last thing she’ll do
is invite another woman into your bed.
Remember: your partner has to feel very secure of your relationship
before she grants you a threesome.
So make sure you never threaten your relationship. It doesn’t matter
how angry or upset you become. She needs to know that you guys are
an item and nothing will ever break your bond.
If
you want her to be sexually confident, you must
work very
hard to make her secure in your love.
If
you’re serious about taking your sex life to a level where
a
threesome can occur you’ll need to make your partner so happy, so
positive, so confident and so secure in your
love
that she’s unafraid to share you with another woman.
Compliment her and show her how much you love her on a regular base.
Write her a loving card, buy her flowers, cuddle up
with her
on the sofa, whisper in her ear
how beautiful she is; there are lot’s
of small things you can do that have major positive impacts. Feeling
loved, accepted and secure are powerful female aphrodisiacs. She’ll
be much more loving if she feels you’re happy with her.
Avoid silly
remarks about her looks at all costs, especially if they’re things
that she cannot change. Avoid telling her that she’s fat. Instead of
making negative remarks, try
to compliment her as often as possible.
Don’t flirt
with her friends unless you’ve got
her approval. If she believes your threesome is just a devious plot
to bonk
her best friend, you’ve got no chance
of
ever pulling it off.
Before you
tell her about your intentions
of having a threesome, you must
be sure
she’s certain that a threesome isn’t
threatening her relationship with you.
It may
very well be that your lover fantasizes about a threesome too, but
has been afraid or embarrassed to admit it. Contrary to men, women
seldom speak to the point and often beat around the bush before
telling you what they actually want. If you want her to talk about
her fantasies, you can encourage her by:
Females
are much more fined tuned when it comes to using the right words. A
common mistake from males when attempting to persuade their partners
is to use
the wrong the words or the right words at the wrong time.
For
example, if she fantasizes about having a threesome with a male
friend, insensitive guys ask things like: “Would you like to suck
his cock?” or “Would you like to feel his dick up your ass?”
This is
a normal thing to say for a guy, but I can assure you that this type
of vocabulary is not appreciated by women.
If she
mentions that she fancies a threesome with a female friend, an
insensitive guy might be silly
enough to ask
“Would you like taste her pussy?” or “Would you like her to suck
yours?” These kinds of
comments go too far,
too fast, too soon.
In some
cases, I know of guys disclosing their
fantasies
saying things like this: “I’d like to have sex with two women at
once.” As you can imagine this won’t go down so well with her.
It’s
always better to say: “I’d like to share you with another woman.”
This confirms you’re not replacing her and she’s still the center of
your world.
One very
important point: when she asks you who that woman would be, your
best bet is not to mention any name. Tell her the choice would be
hers.
This
removes any suspicion that you have already done “research" on your
project and eases her fear that you want someone she doesn’t like.
Besides, this’ll
also get her involved in the process.
From the moment you’ve cleared this issue,
arranging a threesome will be a piece of cake!
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