Sample # 9

(From Chapter #2 Persuading Your Partner)

How to Persuade Your Partner

to Participate on a Threesome!

Let’s face it, most threesome initiatives are started by the guys!

There are exceptions of course, however in most  cases it’s the guys that come up with the idea...   

If the female is the one with the initiative or if both of you are convinced about pursuing the threesome fantasy, you’ll be one step ahead!

However if you’d like to experience a threesome and you’ve never discussed it with your partner, you might need some guidelines to help you persuade her into participating in your fantasy.

The first thing that you’ve got to take into consideration is that women place high values on the pair-bond.

Women are very apprehensive of anyone and anything threatening the health and longevity of the relationship between her and her partner.

For most women, a threesome carries risks she’s not eager to accept.

The first giant obstacle you’ll face  will be to overcome her insecurity.

Besides the social conditioning she was raised with, there are some obstacles that need to be cleared before she can be enthusiastic about inviting someone else into an intimate session.

• Any woman who truly cares about you worries about the relationship, with all the classic fears and uncertainty about your love. You have to understand that she often asks herself; “Does he love me fully?”

•   “Does he love only me?”

•   “Does he really like me the way I am?”

• “Am I woman enough to keep him satisfied?” 

•  “Will he leave me for a younger/firmer/prettier woman?”

Filled with uncertainty and jealously she will defend her turf against all possible threats.

The only responsible person to ease the above mentioned issues is the male in the relationship. Happy, secure, confident women aren’t very jealous.

What Behavior Triggers Her Insecurity?

If your partner is jealous, the root might stem from your own behavior. If you recognize yourself in some of this behavior, your partner has every right to feel insecure about your relationship:

• You’ve frequently expressed your dissatisfaction about her

• You constantly criticize her and never compliment her

• You flirt with every cute woman you see

• You stay out all night from time to time

• You’ve  expressed your discontent with your life and your relationship

•  You only touch her while having sex and don’t express your love often

•  You’ve threatened to leave her

Any of these types of behavior will rapidly turn into insecurity, resentment and a constant jealousy. The insecure woman's worst nightmare is another female in her life and the last thing she’ll do is invite another woman into your bed.

Remember: your partner has to feel very secure of your relationship before she grants you a threesome. So make sure you never threaten your relationship. It doesn’t matter how angry or upset you become. She needs to know that you guys are an item and nothing will ever break your bond.

Female Security is the # 1 Consideration

 If you want her to be sexually confident, you must work very hard to make her secure in your love. If you’re serious about taking your sex life to a level where  a threesome can occur you’ll need to make your partner so happy, so positive, so confident and so secure in your  love that she’s unafraid to share you with another woman.

What can I do to make her feel secure?

This is exactly what you need to do to make her feel secure. Follow these recommendations and she'll be by far more open for granting you a threesome:

Continued in Chapter 2